If we are doing trauma treatment and not acknowledging belonging and of course attachment, then, we might be missing the boat? Belonging is such a fundamental part of being human. We are geared towards being connected and being a part of the pack. If something comes in the way of separating us from the pack that is when our survival instinct may kick in and maybe at one point those instincts came in handy, and now they may be maladaptive aka "not so handy".
In addition to the need for belonging, it is important that we recognize the role of attachment in trauma treatment and that we connect with all parts of the person. Clinicians, have you ever worked with someone you "resolved" the trauma, however, there was a part of them that really didn't understand that the trauma was over? Clients, have you ever felt like certain situations put you back in a childlike or younger state? This is the part of you that still isn't sure that the trauma is over. I cannot underscore the role of attachment enough.
As I was relating to my dear friend/mentor, how, I felt like an outsider in certain situations, and, how I too, was fearful of being separated from the pack, she responded with this:
“You have a place at the table with these people who, after all, are like you, dedicated to helping heal people to end suffering.” – April Steele
We all need friends like that!
For more information on nurturing the young ones inside of us, visit April Steele's website: https://april-steele.ca/apr/distance-training/